And just like that he was gone. My extra jug of gravy - see blog two back - life four years on. I was with someone for just over a year. This person has never made me feel so safe and secure. So adored even! So it’s hard to understand and process when I found him recently on dating sights. It’s hard to stop trying to understand why people, well men in my case will claim to be so in love but disrespect you at the same time.  I’ve been told so many lies I don’t know what was re

It's been so long since my last blog. I think one part from the story is missing though and that's when the phone call happened.  So...

It's getting on for 4 years after we left. So, a reflective post for someone who needs it.  Life has calmed down - to an extent, co - parenting is still challenging though. He is the only person on the planet who provided the level of difficulty. However, with steps in place such as handovers being in the library in public, waiting in the car to avoid interactions,  you can manage. Legalities - are a challenge but solicitors are working their way through things and hopefully

It seemed like we had been living at refuge for ages. There are some long-term residents like me; we stuck in a dead end. The school run...

This time a year ago I was working at a school for the academic year. I was looking to see if I could get a mortgage and took a **job....

When I was at refuge I was watching an advert for the Salvation Army Christmas Appeal. It was an appeal to help the homeless. I had this...

I have been hibernating. Emphasis on the 'have' there. I would rewrite in capitols but seems to aggresive with my coffee this morning. ...

I feel I have turned into a slug. Purely metaphorically you understand. I have a court date with my ex thats ongoing. I am not allowed to...

What are the ripples we may face after leaving? I can confirm, that handovers may be tricky for a long time if you have children...

Leaving an abuser I wanted to write as a warning, no, that sounds ominous. A realistic managing expectations - leaving an abuser is a...

Sometimes I’m asked, just how did you do it?  That I could never. This is what helped me. I had a song that I played over and over -...

I was always dreading the day my ex would come across my blog. I was worried about the backlash, the gas lighting, the anger. There was...

I want to leave - what do I do? Be aware your decision will swing day by day and just allow the thought process to work its way. There...

The blog been delayed lately.  There are more interactions with him. As always its inferred I don’t do a good job looking after our...

Someone I knew once confided in me about their partner. All was not well, all was not merry and bright. She was waiting till her oldest...

At refuge one of the lovely things they do is to offer counselling to the children. You know when you meet someone and you feel this...

When someone has obsessive compulsive disorder - they are in such distress unless their own routine is followed. My flatmate in her mind...

My flatmate and her toddler became a promenade feature in our lives. It's so interesting when your're suddenly squashed together in a...

So I’ll take you back to that summer night - and typically it was raining. We’d arrived at refuge, pretty nervous, well very nervous....

It’s been a long time since the last post. I seemed to have had extra hassle from my ex the past few months. What is so apparent is how...