#coercivecontrol

Nov 13

I think I've turned back - no longer a slug.

I have been hibernating. Emphasis on the 'have' there. I would rewrite in capitols but seems to aggresive with my coffee this morning. ...

Sep 9

I've turned into a slug

I feel I have turned into a slug. Purely metaphorically you understand. I have a court date with my ex thats ongoing. I am not allowed to...

Aug 6

Ripples and Spikes

What are the ripples we may face after leaving? I can confirm, that handovers may be tricky for a long time if you have children...

Jul 5

A marathon not a sprint

Leaving an abuser I wanted to write as a warning, no, that sounds ominous. A realistic managing expectations - leaving an abuser is a...

Mar 29

I want to leave - I need to leave. help

I want to leave - what do I do? Be aware your decision will swing day by day and just allow the thought process to work its way. There...

Feb 6

Valentines at refuge

The blog been delayed lately. There are more interactions with him. As always its inferred I don’t do a good job looking after our...

Oct 27, 2023

staying for the 'sake of the children'

Someone I knew once confided in me about their partner. All was not well, all was not merry and bright. She was waiting till her oldest...

Oct 7, 2023

How refuge puts you back together

At refuge one of the lovely things they do is to offer counselling to the children. You know when you meet someone and you feel this...

Sep 7, 2023

Five children and me

When someone has obsessive compulsive disorder - they are in such distress unless their own routine is followed. My flatmate in her mind...

Jan 5, 2023

I have this friend ...

What to do when you suspect someone is in an abusive relationship? This is solely coming from my perspective, and everyone is, of...